A fun weekend!

I am posting tonight in honor of Aunti Staci, who needs some BabyBug photo-therapy after being rear-ended this morning. She also felt it was very creepy to keep seeing the BabyBorg photograph as the LeahValerie.com iPhone icon (since I guess it shows the most recent photo?). So here you go, Aunti Staci – another photoblast just for you!

Leah had a lovely weekend once she was all cleaned up from her sleep study. On Saturday we celebrated Jenna’s birthday with a table full of wacky, silly cousins. There was at least one hot-potato incident – as in, “Hey, can you please pass the baby?” and then she proceeds to be handed around like a game of hot potato until she gets to the appropriate cousin. Although usually in a game of hot potato people don’t try to sneak in a snuggle with the potato before they have to pass it along. Still.

On Saturday afternoon, Aunti Staci came over, and then Grandpa Bill and Grandma Barbie came to visit! Random silly moments in the BabyBug household: Aunti Staci had Leah on her lap and Leah was making all sorts of fun noises. Aunti Staci asked LeahBug, “Are you pooping?” and then sang it to her in a random melody. It reminded me a lot of “Do You Love Me” from “Fiddler on the Roof.” So I sang back, in Leah’s voice… “Am I poopiiiing…”

In less-amusing news… Leah has another dilation scheduled for this Thursday. It was supposed to be next Thursday, but there was a scheduling issue with the doctors. Sigh. Here we go again!

Okay – here you go, Aunti Staci!

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Leah returned from her sleep study in dire need of a good shampooing – although in retrospect this would have been the PERFECT babyhawk opportunity.

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The winner of the “pass the baby” game. Happy birthday, kiddo!

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Naptime with Abby!

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“OH HAI JENNA!”

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“Your hair is so pretty! And by pretty, I mean nummy!”

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Silly Cousin Crew

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“Mama, is this shopping?”

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“Auntie Jo, your hair is red!”

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Jeepers Creepers is starting to take an ever-so-slight interest in LeahBug.

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“Something is in my bed. It appears to be a tiny human. I must investigate.”

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“It stares back at me. Hmm.”

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“It looks like a hand, but it is very small.”

Then he learned that it was indeed a hand when she grabbed a fistful of fur. He said, “Oh HELL no” and stomped away.

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But he came back at a later date to continue his investigation.

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Cool Aunti Erin’s band!

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LeahBug, violence is never the answer.

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This picture just busts me up. She has a mustache and beard, just like Grandpa Bill!

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“Look, Mama! Toes!”

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Such a sweet face. She loves that Gloworm.

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On the swing again at OT! We have a smile and a squint.

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Sometimes it’s the tiny things that keep us entertained. The very tiny things. Don’t worry – this is polish made especially for bitty bitty people, and we didn’t polish her fingernail since they spend too much time in her mouth…

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…much like this…

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…and this.

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I love this little expression. I’m still figuring out what it means, but I love it.

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Rabbit ears for lunch!

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“Wait, hang on – I have something to say, but let me just finish this ear first.”

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Inspecting her newly-purple toenails. “Um, Gran? Something’s different here.”

BabyBug’s Very Long Day

I hate to do this to you, but it’s gonna be another photo-less post. I am working on another photoblast, but in the mean time, I thought you might like to know how Leah’s day went.

To refresh your memory… Leah’s swallow study indicated that she had a stricture, or a narrowing of the esophagus at the surgical site, which was preventing food from passing safely from the esophagus into the stomach. They resolve this issue by inserting a balloon via endoscopy to stretch out the surgical site and allow food to pass through.

For a couple of hours earlier this week, it looked like Leah’s procedure this morning might be postponed for a bit, but her doctors sorted out the confusion and she arrived at the hospital at 6:15AM this morning. YES. 6:15. AM. The plan was that she would be admitted following her procedure so that they could monitor her overnight, since she’s had difficulty with extubation the past few times she’s been on the ventilator.

The procedure started a little over an hour late, so we spent a good portion of the morning trying to distract Leah from the fact that she’d had food withheld since 2AM. When we spoke with the doctor he told us that he would keep her overnight for observation if they had to dilate, but that if there was no need for dilation then she would likely go home after the procedure unless there were any problems.

The procedure took maybe 45 minutes total, give or take a few. By the time Leah came back to the recovery room, there was a whole new set of plans. Leah was not kept overnight, but she does have a stricture, and a dilation was necessary. But that’s not all. Leah is now scheduled for a dilation every two weeks for the time being, until they are able to get the constricted portion of the esophagus to the desired size. They were able to dilate to 6-7mm today. They want to get to 12mm. We are still in the learning process for this new complication, so I’m not sure what that means relative to a “normal” esophagus or how long they anticipate it will take to get her to a comfortable place. I’ll let you know when I know!

After the procedure, LeahBug was Pretty Freaking Cranky until she had her lunch. She has this special way of crying and babbling angrily at the same time that makes you feel like you can actually hear profanities as she yells. That’s the yell we got when she woke up and realized her tummy was on Empty. Whew. All things considered, though, she was actually pretty pleasant. Once she had some food in her, she calmed down and even took a few catnaps. Our big strong girl barely cried when they took out the IV (although I’ll admit that feat took a lot of Glowworm songs and Mama-dancing), and by the time we actually left the discharge area she was smiling and giggling. Sweet girl.

SO. That was our very long day. We are all exhausted, and I’m not quite sure how we’re still awake at 10PM (so I apologize for any incoherence – I’m operating on very, very little sleep!!!). I will post photos soon!

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Okay, I lied. One picture. Because it makes me laugh.

An unexpected but awesome experience

Recently we received a phone call from the executive director of the LA Ronald McDonald House, who wanted to know if we would be willing to speak briefly at a board member retreat dinner for Ronald McDonald House Charities of Southern California. They wanted to invite a family to share their experience with the board, and since we are relatively local it was possible for us to attend on short notice. I am so glad that we did. It was a really special experience. We shared Leah’s story with a room full of [100] people without whom we could not have gotten through the past year, because they make the Ronald McDonald Houses happen. They met one of the families they work so tirelessly to support. And we had the privilege of hearing the story of how the organization began, as shared by Fred Hill, whose daughter Kim’s illness was the catalyst for the creation of the first Ronald McDonald House in Philadelphia nearly 40 years ago. It’s amazing how something so wonderful could grow out of something so devastating. They showed a video of Kim speaking when she was a little bit older, and she said she didn’t like being sick, but in a way she was glad it had happened because out of her illness this great thing had been created. Now that’s perspective! Unfortunately she passed away several years ago; the radiation she had as a child caused brain tumors later in life. So sad – but such a powerful story. It was a real honor to meet Fred and his wife Fran after the event, and they were gracious enough to take a photo with us.

Also, the food was really, really good.

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BabyBug visits the Mousiest Place on Earth!

Well, as you might have figured out by now, we spent our very first family vacation at Disneyland. We were able to take this trip thanks to our awesometastic cousins, one set who gifted us with park hoppers, and the other who arranged hotel reservations for us. We are so grateful that we got to take some time to step away and just be a little family on a little vacation. I love that in LA you don’t have to stray far from home to have a great weekend getaway.

And we did! We had a blast. On Friday morning we had breakfast with my grandparents, who live closer to Disneyland than to our home. I am so psyched that we got to see them – they had not been able to visit with Leah since she was discharged from the hospital and have been aching to see her. They were delighted to get some quality time with the little Bug. My grandma didn’t want to give her back when lunch was over!

On Friday night, we headed to the park to meet cousins for dinner, but first we stopped at City Hall to deal with some administrivia involving disability accommodations for Leah and for myself. Rant at the end of this post – feel free to skim or skip.

Anyway. Thankfully the issue was resolved. In general, we found that the cast members were really hit and miss about being sensitive to disability issues. We got trapped in the line at the train station because the wheelchair entrance wasn’t clearly marked and there was an access door at the entrance to the platform – but by the time we realized there was a separate entrance for the accessible car, we were trapped in line by 100 other people and there was no way to get out of the line without mowing them down with Leah’s stroller. The cast members were not apologetic at all and said, “Next time, use the wheelchair entrance.” Hello – we tried! On the other hand, I was impressed at Minnie’s house; I asked Minnie to not *touch* the baby during our family picture because of her special needs and immune issues. Before taking pictures, the photographer double-checked to make sure that using the flash was okay. Most people wouldn’t think to ask about that. It was fine to use the flash, but I’m glad she was conscientious enough to ask.

Here are a few of my favorite moments of the trip:

1) Leah’s face during her first time on “Small World.” She spent half the time looking around at all the bright colors, and the other half staring up at Mandy in adoration: “DOLLIES AND BRIGHT LIGHTS! YOU ARE THE BEST MOMMY EVER!” She was so sad when it was over.

2) Leah’s second time on Small World: She fell asleep in my arms during the wait, slept soundly through the ride, and then cracked open her eyes with a bleary greeting to the world just as we were pulling back into the daylight.

3) Flying baby! Leah LOVES to be held up in the air like a little flying baby! She grins like a little goofball. She flew all over Disneyland!

4) Leah got charmed by a magic wand. She started crying in one of the stores and suddenly a cast member appeared out of nowhere with a magical light-up wand, which silenced her instantly. Our first question: “Where can we get one of those?” Ha. I wonder if that cast member’s job is to make sure there are no screaming babies in the stores. Mission accomplished!

We also took Leah on the Haunted Mansion, the Mark Twain riverboat, Peter Pan, Snow White and Alice in Wonderland (plus the train, as I mentioned). Leah’s favorite part of the dark rides? The magical glowy polka dots that appeared on her mommies’ shirts when the black lights came on (we were wearing red shirts with white spots). Ooooooh!

For us, it was interesting to experience Disneyland not only as mommies, but as mommies of a child with special needs. I think there develops some sort of new radar – like “gaydar” but for special kids – and somehow you just sort of notice people more frequently. Maybe it was the little “Please wash your hands before touching mine” signs on Leah’s stroller (from the RSV shot clinic) – we probably had almost as many people making exclamations over those as we did over the baby! One mom asked us if our insurance had covered the RSV shots – her little girl has cystic fibrosis. Mandy met two moms in the baby care center whose little ones also have g-tubes. It turned out one of them was born with TEF/EA! Not Type A, but still pretty uncommon! So random and cool. We also spotted seven different people with Down syndrome over the course of the weekend. Curiously, only one of them was a child. Not quite sure where to go with that detail but I suppose there could be many reasons.

So anyway, yeah – we had a blast at Disneyland. It turned out to be a pretty popular weekend – the Tinkerbell 5K, 10K and half-marathon took place each morning before the park opened, and apparently Sunday was an unofficial “Dr. Who” day, so there were geeks EVERYWHERE. I spotted a guy wearing the “And then Buffy staked Edward. The End.” shirt. LOVE.

It was also a pretty dirty weekend. There were kids sneezing all over the place, and nobody seemed to wash their hands. While we were at lunch I saw one little girl at the next table sneeze, and then her dad helped her blow her nose into a napkin and then threw the germ-ridden napkin onto the table. OMG. We carried disinfectant wipes everywhere.

On Sunday night, our cousins took us out to dinner at the Jazz Kitchen for my birthday. SO YUMMY. Probably one of the best dinners I have had in a very, very long time. Leah slept through the whole thing, even after the band started playing. The perks of having a NICU baby, I guess. She really does sleep through almost anything.

Other things going on this week:
-Leah ate about 2 teaspoons of sweet potato at her speech therapy visit!
-We had Leah’s assessment interview with the county office of education, which provides some services to kids with special needs.
-Mama got the stomach flu. Yeah. We worked so hard to keep LeahBug away from the germs, so they got me instead. Better me than her, for sure – but it was definitely no fun. I spent all of Monday in bed with fever, aches and chills.
-Last week, we brought Leah to meet our IVF doctor! She slept through the whole thing, but it was still very sweet. In her sleep I just know she was thinking, “Hey, thanks for making me!”

Exciting things happening next week:
-SWALLOW STUDY on Monday!!! They will do a video swallow study to examine Leah’s swallowing function and see if she is ready to really start taking in some food orally.
-Regional Center meeting on Wednesday! We will meet with Leah’s service coordinator and hopefully get this show on the road! Leah’s Kaiser OT appointment was just cancelled for the second time in a row, so she basically hasn’t had any OT services in nearly two months. It is absolutely ridiculous and unacceptable. Once we have this meeting, the Regional Center can start setting up therapists for Leah and her services can begin.
-Disneyland. Yeah… we have one day left on our park hoppers, so we are going to go back for a little day trip when it’s less crowded and do some of the things we didn’t get to do the last time because it was a holiday weekend and very crowded.

So that’s it! Pictures, followed by rant. Enjoy. Ha.

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“Oh look, a foot!”

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Silly girl has her leg!

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OMG. NOBODY TELL BABY. When we were in PICU, one of the nurses told baby that some imaginary nurse was making her do all the awful things she had to do, like replacing the repogle or helping with blood draws. I named the imaginary nurse “Fabio” because all the other names I suggested already belonged to real nurses.

Here’s our vacation!

January 16

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“Rumor has it we’re going to Disneyland. Allow me to share my feelings.”

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Let’s look at that up close

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And a little closer…

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BabyPie checking out our bed

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“I’m comfy, Mama. You take the crib tonight!”

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I like the other picture better, but I’m sharing this one too, largely because she looks like such a little StinkerBell here. “Teehee.”

January 17

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Dressed for the occasion!

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It’s a small baby after all!

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Only in SoCal would this be the front-and-center display in the middle of January.

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Grandpa Bob

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BabyBug and Grandma Marilyn having a Very Serious Conversation.

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Do I have the cutest grandparents, or what?

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That was an exhausting lunch! It’s hard being so loved.

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Cartwheel? High kick?

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Trying to roll onto our side

January 18! Mama’s birthday!

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“If I can just… get… this… into… my… mouth…!”

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We hadn’t even started our day and she was already knocked out!

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“You’re going to make me wear this in public?”

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“OH GOD. NOT IN PUBLIC.”

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If BabyBug has to wear Tender Grips, we shall make them cute!

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“Mamas. There’s cute, and then there’s cuuuuuuuuuuuute. I think this might be too much cute.”

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On the Mark Twain Riverboat

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SMOOCH

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Cheeeeese!

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Waiting for Small World

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“ARE YOU SERIOUS?”

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“IS THIS FOR REAL?”

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“BEST MOMMY EVER!”

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An enthusiastic disco thumbs up.

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Later that day… WeepyBug was tired!

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PoutyPie. Bordering on Ponyface.

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Glowy dots! Magical glowy dots!

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Dinner at Flo’s!

January 19

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“Mama, can I please have your face?”

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“Mama, for your belated birthday present I shall look like you. You’re welcome!”

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“Fingers are nummylicious.”

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Just ’cause she’s cute.

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Shnuggling

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Tummy time!

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Minnie!

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Small World, take II

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I think Leah’s favorite part of Disneyland might just be her feet.

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She slept through the whole ride, and then woke up just as we re-entered daylight: “Mama, I just had the weirdest dream!

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LeahBug! There’s no crying allowed at Disneyland! It’s like, in the rules or something! Looks like someone didn’t get the memo.

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Mommy and Bug at the castle

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The whole family at the castle

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“Look. At. This. Hat. MAMAS.”

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SILLY baby!

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Silly baby got her foot!

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Goofy!

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“I swear I can fit this in my mouth!

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“Mommy, please don’t throw me in the well! I’ll wear the hat, I promise!”

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Baby loves to fly.

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Loves. It.

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“Mommy, can I please have your face?”

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“Tada! You like my shirt?”

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Hi, Auntie Beth!

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Auntie Beth and Uncle Brian

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We love our Cool Auntie Erin

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Disney: 1. Baby: 0.

January 20

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Sweetheart

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Serious Bug

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Just kidding!

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A long-overdue update.

Well! I’ve had at least 5 people tell me pointedly that I haven’t updated the blog in a while, so I guess it’s time.

What’s new in the BabyBug household?

Well, Leah is officially 8 months old as of yesterday, January 8. (Here’s the video we posted on Facebook for her birthmonthday.) She is spending more and more time looking at her feet when she’s in her chair, and we’re sure she’s going to try to catch them any day now. We are working with her every day on tummy time and sitting up / neck support, and she is getting better and better at it, although she is still a bit bobble-headed and I think she’s a long way off from being able to sit up on her own. Her big accomplishment in recent weeks is that she can support her neck when we pull her from being on her back to sitting up. She couldn’t do that in the hospital! Good girl!

Leah’s Regional Center intake worker let us know that Leah will be getting three appointments per week for the time being – one OT feeding, one PT, and one infant stim. I’m a bit concerned because they sent us a copy of the OT assessment after that decision was made, and it’s not made entirely clear in the assessment that Leah doesn’t know how to eat at all – in fact, the reason given for the g-tube placement is difficulty in coordinating sucking, swallowing and breathing. Yes, that’s her problem now, because of the Down Syndrome and lack of experience in eating – but the g-tube was placed because she was born without a functional digestive tract!

In my previous job I was just starting to learn about special ed, having previously focused on another topic area. I have the feeling that I’m going to learn a lot more by being on the parental side of things. Lesson # 1 learned: Get a copy of the assessment before the eligibility meeting takes place.

Other things going on since the last blog… BabyPie has finally graduated to a high-chair, so she can sit AT the dinner table with us instead of sitting next to the table in a bouncy chair and looking up at us going, “HELLO! LOOK AWAY FROM THE PLATE!” The pictures make her look really big, but she is so very tiny in this thing that she can’t even reach the toys we put on it. She is itty bitty.

We had lots of visitors this past week (all pre-screened for coughing and sneezing and sniffles, of course!). Our friends Jess and Toni and their 19-year-old son Wesley (also chromosomally enhanced) came over for dinner last week. My family came over this past weekend so that we could celebrate my mom’s birthday. My sister brought my 94-year-old grandpa, who loves this little bug so much. She makes him smile. Later in the week, cousin Jenna went in for surgery, and Dr. BabyBug made a couple of virtual house calls. Cousin Jenna finally got out of the hospital today and of course she came over for some Bug Therapy. Our friends also came over this morning, and one of them played with Leah and gave us some ideas for exercises we can do with her. Always appreciated! The other friend served as nap-time comfort. On Saturday, Aunti Staci is coming over!

Leah has started her speech therapy. She’s still having a ton of trouble with the whole notion of pulling water/milk into her mouth and then swallowing it. She’s like, “OH MY GOSH, I WANT TO EAT, I JUST WANT TO EAT, NOM NOM NOM – wait, what is this STUFF in my mouth????” She wants to nurse, she wants to suck, she knows it’s something she’s supposed to be doing – but then she gets totally confused when it happens.

In case you’re wondering, the cloth diapering is still going well. It’s not quite as terrifying as I initially thought it might be, although it can be pretty messy when there are messes. But that is true of disposables as well. And I did the math – it’s definitely a money saver, despite the initial investment. This is especially true because kids with Down Syndrome often have potty training delays, which means Leah may be in diapers longer than a typical child would – and that delay shouldn’t result in extra diapering expenses as it would if we were using disposables. Plus… the landfills are filling up quickly enough already! We’ve had so little control over things and it’s nice to be able to make this decision and stick with it.

In other news, we’ve decided that Leah isn’t going to ask for a pony. She’s going to say, “Mommies, I need a pony as a reasonable accommodation under the Americans with Disabilities Act” – because she’s my daughter. And then she’s going to make the Pony Face.

So. I offer you this video to make up for the delay in updating.

And now, pictures!

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BabyBug visiting with her friend Jess!

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“Um, I’m not so sure about this high-chair thing, Mamas…”

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“But this means I’m a big girl now, right?”

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I love this face. It’s her “looking up” face. She looks like she’s thinking hard – perhaps contemplating the meaning of things above her head.

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One determined baby!

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“Um, ‘scuse me, Mr. Grandpa Bill? You still have that toy on your chin. Share?”

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Spinning BabyBug???

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Sitting on our new exercise ball.

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“LOOK AT ME! I’M SO PROUD OF ME!”

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“This is HARD WORK.”

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Three generations (one’s skipped because my mom’s not in the picture!). My grandpa, me, and oh yes, my little Buggy showing off her belly.

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There are 94 years separating these two. But they both look like they could cause some trouble, don’t they?

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He loves this tiny tot!

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Dr. BabyBug makes a house call.

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We celebrated our 8-month birthday with smoochies from Mommy!

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Then we did big-girl things like sitting up…

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…and sticking our tongue out.

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It was a very exhausting day. But we’re a big girl now, so we’re all proper with our pinky sticking out.

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Good morning, Mr. Cheshire Cat!

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“Mommy, it’s looking at me!”

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“Oh well. I think I’ll – zzzzzzzzzzzzzz.”

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Waking up for the second time today. Good morning again! Monkeys are delicious.

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“Like, omigawsh. I’m in a high chair.”

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Waiting for our friends to arrive and trying to decide which toy to yell at first.

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“First I shall yell at the wheel. AYE!”

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“Mama! I yelled at it! Why didn’t it spin?”

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“Make it spin, Mama! Make it spin!”

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“Make it spin because I’m CUTE.”

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“Mama. Make it spin. And pony.”

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See how freaking tiny she is in this high chair. We had to add the little infant head pillow from her bouncy chair just to make sure she doesn’t flop around.

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“Spinning! Good Mama. See, was that so hard?”

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Buggy chillin on her pal.

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Cousin Jenna gets Bug Therapy.

Periwinkle time!

Apparently January is Esophageal Atresia Awareness Month, and periwinkle is the color for EA awareness, so welcome to our new background color for the month of January!

In other news, Leah and I spent a good 15 minutes last night marching around the living room singing classic TV theme songs. BabyBug would start to giggle a little bit every time I changed to a new song – I’m impressed! Note for future reference: Leah LOVES the theme songs to “The Munsters” and “Mr. Ed” but is not as impressed with “The Mary Tyler Moore Show.” Probably because MTM doesn’t come with exciting sound effects and voice changes.

LeahBug in the new year!

I guess it’s high time for another slew of photographs. But first, a tiny update on the tiny Bug. Leah had her first outpatient visit with her cardiologist last Friday, and really, not much has changed. We’re still in a long-term “wait and see” holding pattern. The ASD is pretty small at this point, and even if it needed to be corrected, apparently there are less-invasive ways of repairing it. The VSD, however, needs to shrink for Leah to not need surgery; the doc said the size of the hole is right on the borderline of whether it would or would not need surgery, but the bottom line is it needs to shrink. If she does need heart surgery we are likely still looking several years down the line. So let’s wait and let’s see and let’s hope this thing shrinks!!!

In other news, Leah is coughing an awful lot lately and is pretty sneezy too. We are keeping fingers crossed that it’s just allergies and not a cold, but it’s been pretty bad today. Not really quite sure what to do if it keeps up – but we’ll call her doctor in the morning and find out.

We hope everybody had an awesome and safe New Year’s Eve celebration, and we wish you a happy and healthy 2014! Here’s looking forward to a year of growth and progress for our bitty Bug, who has come so far already but has such a long journey ahead. Thank you for being Leah’s cheerleaders. <3

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“Silly Mommy, silly Mommy!”

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“I love my Binkeez!”

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Sweet face

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Pony face

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Melt-yer-freakin’-heart face

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If babies could take selfies…

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Hanging out with honorary grandma Cathy

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Somebody isn’t waiting up ’til midnight!

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Out cold like a polar bear!

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“Mama, what’s a New Year?”

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“Auntie Kim and family did what to celebrate this New Year’s Eve thing???”

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“No Times Square for me, thanks! I’m happy with my tasty monkey!”

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“This is my serious face.”

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“Good morning, feets!”

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“Look Mama! Two feets!”

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Smooooooshy face

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Meeting our buddy Ry Ry for the first time!

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“What is it?”

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A visit from cousin Jenna. These two are gonna be trouble! Right here in River City!

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“Peekaboo, Mommy!”

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“Teehee! I’m cute. Shhh, don’t tell anyone.”

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“Mamaaaa…. put the camera away.”

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“Like, omigawwwwd, gag me with a spewn.”

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I love this little shirt from one of Mommy’s colleagues!

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“WHEW! Neck support is hard work!”

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Showing off our dinosaurs.

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Cousin time!

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Out cold on Maddy’s lap!

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Chillin’ with Abby. In the background, Ms. Jenna says, “Are you done yet? Is it my turn yet?”

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Reunited at last!

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Somebody intercepted the baby between kid cousins! BabyThief!

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See? Trouble.

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Precious in purple

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Besties

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Seriously, I could stare at this face for hours.

Wrapping up 2013 with lots of family!

What a wonderful week full of family! Friday night we had our annual gift-giving and nom-eating celebration with cousins BB&E – usually this occurs on Christmas eve, but they were going to be out of town this year so we did it early. Over the weekend, we had a couple of visits from cousin Jenna and her moms, and Aunti Staci brought BabyBug’s 94-year-old great-grandpa to visit. During the week, Grandma Bill & Grandma Barbie came to visit, and then Aunti Staci came back with friends. Gran came over to visit a few times, and BabyBug hung out with Uncle Ralph too.

As we do every year, we spent Christmas day with Mandy’s brother and his family, since they celebrate Christmas. BabyBug was chipper this morning (until her bath), but she fell asleep in the car and then slept through most of the day. We kept checking on her to see if she’d wake up and visit, but she was determined to get her beauty sleep! She finally woke up a little after 4PM and had some nice snuggle time with her Uncle Bry & Auntie Co. It was a lovely day!

And now, what you’ve been waiting for… pictures!

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Oh, we are dainty!

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“CHEEEEEEEEESE!”

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“Heehee, Grandpa Bill, you got a toy on your chin!”

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“ZZZZZZZ.”

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Out cold.

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Does it make me a terrible person if I am thoroughly amused by this? Sleeve ears!!!

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Somebody was super cheerful this morning!

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“Did you say bath?”

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“Oh gosh. There’s a dress coming, isn’t there?”

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“I KNEW IT!”

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“Oh, hey, this isn’t so bad!”

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“Actually, it’s kind of tasty!”

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“But that doesn’t stop me from giving you a CrankyBug face just for the heck of it! AYE!”

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Snowman!

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Asleep with our dollies.

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Awake with our dollies.

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“MAMARAZZI!”

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Posing in cousin Sasha’s sparkle-chair – ahem, the Empress’s throne.

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Tap-dancing arms!

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Disco arms

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“CHEEEEEESE!”

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“Hi, this is my SRSLY? face!”

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“Vogue!”

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“Mmmmm, it tastes like red!”

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Family picture!

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Somebody did not get the “say cheeeeese” memo.

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“Hmm. Dress. Interesting.”

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“I’m just gonna chill here and play with my dress, k guys?”

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“Oh, were you trying to take a picture?”

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Mommy and cousin Sasha

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Mommy and cousin Sasha and cheerful Buggy

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Mama and Bug

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“SHINY.”

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Family picture!

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Bigger family picture!

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Gran!

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Auntie Co

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Uncle Ralph

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“GUYYYYYSSSSSS, ENOUGH PICTURES!”

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Taking the hint, I began to photograph the cat.

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Kushka!

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It’s not Christmas at Bry & Co’s if I don’t get a photo of Kushka under the tree!

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And this, this one is for me.

Big Week O’ Docs Debriefing

(Random note: Today is Leah’s 227th day. This has no real significance except that today she is a TV sitcom.)

WHEW! This week is finally over! BabyBug had a total of 9 appointments. Here is the rundown on how they went, partially for you and partially for my own reference:

Monday: Speech: Turned into an emergency visit to the nurse practitioner when BabyBug’s g-tube balloon failed. “Glug glug glug.” Leah is not quite ready for a swallow study yet. She needs more OT to work on sucking coordination.

Tuesday: Surgery: Baby is cleared for feeding as far as surgery is concerned. Their main focus is on feeding from a structural viewpoint – maintaining the g-tube, watching for strictures. GI: Leah’s feeds are now bolus (over an hour) during the day and continuous at night. Her g-tube site already looks a little better.

Wednesday: RSV shot. DID SOMEBODY SAY SHOT? Leah was pissed, but she was strong and brave, although she had a few choice syllables for the nurse. The lady in charge of the RSV shots gave me some awesome signs to hang on the stroller so that people don’t randomly reach out and try to touch the baby without asking. Seriously – this is not only people we know. Total strangers will sometimes reach out to touch the baby or the stroller. Why do they do that? Why?

Thursday: The big day turned into a day with a big gap. The morning appointment with the ENT was simply lovely. Buggy got some yuckies sucked out of her nose, and then a big scope (not that big really, but to her it probably looked like a hose) stuck up her nose and into her throat so the doc could see her vocal cords and other nifty throat parts. Leah’s vocal cords are still a bit red, but they are moving more appropriately than they were last time, and her larynx no longer appears to be very floppy. The ENT says for the time being we can come back and see her as needed but no follow-up is necessary. YAY! The OT appointment got cancelled at the last minute (not sure why) so we wound up with a 3.5-hour gap between appointments. So Gran and Mama and BabyBug went to Starbucks. Oh yeah. Baby had her first Starbucks trip and it was grand. Or maybe grande. Leah was very well-behaved, and even got in a little bit of a nap. We did have one, um, “incident” in which Mama Lisa adjusted the nasal cannula so that the tips pointed in the right direction (into her nose), and BabyBug responded by casually putting her hand up to her nose – and ripping the cannula right off her face. She thought this was absolutely hilarious. I got big smiles. She was very, very proud of herself. After Starbucks Leah had her pulmonology appointment. BTW, Leah weighs about 11 lbs, 4.5 oz. Could be better, could be worse. She pulled off her cannula AGAIN at the office, so we just left it off while we waited to see the doc. He approved our request to have her only be on oxygen while she is sleeping, although we really need to get a pulse oximeter so we can keep an eye on her saturation levels. She is due to have a sleep study within the next few months, but he said that based on what he has observed, he thinks it will likely come out abnormal. So we’ll likely be dealing with that in the coming months.

Friday: Regional Center assessments! The OT came in the AM and did her assessment, and it sounds like she plans to recommend PT, OT, and an OT feeding assessment. Leah’s chronological age is about 7.5 months, but her adjusted age is 5.5 months since she was born 2 months early. However, with the Down Syndrome and also such a long hospitalization, the expectation is that Leah would be behind in development. The OT went over some of her findings with us and it sounds like Leah’s age developmentally is about 3 months right now in most areas. She was at 20 days for reactions to sounds – she hears them but doesn’t turn to investigate. I think this was referred to as receptive language. And guess which area was right on target for her adjusted age of 5 months? Expression! I believe (could be wrong) that the specific term was expressive language. Basically, in terms of expressing herself, she’s doing pretty well. But I think we all knew that, right?

Picture time!

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The hamsa is up! Once Leah is in her own room it will go in there for her, but for now it is in the living room for everyone to enjoy! Thanks again, Angel Love Boxes!

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“HI GRAN!”

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Asleep with our buddies

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“Did somebody say SHOTS???”

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Baby’s first rainbow

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“Look Mamas, no cannula! Mr. Doctor Man says I only have to wear it when I sleep!”

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Adorable precious jacket from JK Jackets for Kids. Thank you!

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So pretty with her glowing olive-oiled cheekies. Her Facebook pals suggested that olive oil was a good way to get tape residue to come off. It worked!

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Snuggle snuggle snuggle!

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The RSV clinic supervisor gave me a couple of these to hang on Leah’s stroller and carseat. Genius!

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Asleep with Mr. Seahorse

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“Really, Mama?” Tonight we had our annual holiday get-together with cousins Beth, Brian and Erin and some additional family/friends, in place of the Christmas Eve we usually spend with them. BabyBug got all dolled up in a dress that was a gift from Beth and Cool Auntie Erin. Leah had lots of fun, but I think she’d have been happier wearing a onesie. It’s not so much that she doesn’t enjoy dresses in particular – it’s that she doesn’t like anything that is bulky or particularly complicated to put on, e.g. jeans, ruffly dresses, overalls, t-shirts – really anything aside from front-snapping onesies that don’t require anything to go over the head. On the other hand, she does seem to reserve some of her very best angry faces for the frilliest outfits…

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I think they were thinking the same thing: “Toy?”

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Cousin Mocha (I call her Moo-cat because she is fat) investigates the new visitor. “Hmm. Friend? Enemy? Snack? Toy? Never mind. It’s boring.”

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‘Cause it isn’t a dress photoshoot without an angry babyface.

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More snugglies

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This could almost pass as a smile, but I’m fairly certain it was not.

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But this is definitely a POUT.

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Distracted Buggy is distracted. Her hand is so dainty.

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“Whaddya want now?”

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“That’s more like it.”

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Selfies!

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BuggyBug asleep on my arm.

BusyBug

Whew! We are nearly halfway through BabyBug’s Big Week O’ Docs. Including her two in-home assessments by Regional Center, she has 9 appointments this week – plus one emergency appointment yesterday.

Hm. What has been going on these past few days? Well, Sunday morning, we woke up to the sound of Uncle Ralph on the phone with the electric company. Something about a power outage. What?? Noooooo! It turns out our whole neighborhood was out of power. Sigh. We had no choice but to wait it out, so we went about our day. Cool Auntie Erin came over and we went to the craft store for her 16th birthday present, supplies to make jewelry to wear on stage at her band performances. After the store we came back to the house, and Erin made some earrings, a necklace that says, “ROCK ON, SISTER,” and a bracelet. ‘Cause she’s cool like that. Later, we went to a party hosted by Mandy’s choir director. Every year, he hosts a holiday party just for the women in the choir – they jokingly call it the lesbian party and he gives out party favors like little tool kits and battery-powered screwdrivers. This year he had some little drawings and I won a step-ladder. Yay! No, seriously, YAY. Ours is too short. Or really, we’re too short and therefore it doesn’t raise us up high enough to change lightbulbs.

While dressing for the party, I put on a flannel shirt that I’ve been wearing as a sweater lately as a sort of throwback to my junior high years (and also because it’s super-comfy). Mandy saw it and joked that she should wear one too since it would be totally fitting for the occasion. Cut to 20 minutes later and we’re all ready to go – me in my flannel, Mandy in hers, and Leah in a striped button-down shirt and khaki overalls. It was the cutest, most ridiculous thing ever and I only wish we’d had power so we could have taken a better picture to show you. As it is, we barely found our way to the door (THANK YOU, iPHONE FLASHLIGHT!), and the lighting at the party was fairly dim. So we have what we have. Just know that it was ridiculous. Everybody was so excited to meet BabyBug, and she did pretty well and didn’t really get overwhelmed like she did at Thanksgiving, although eventually I took her into another room so she could sleep.

When we got back to the house, there was still no power. We had fun (or not) stumbling around the house using battery-powered tea-lights to light our way. It was a challenging experience – Leah has more than one electricity-powered medical device as well as refrigerated meds and breast milk, and we had to take a ride to Gran’s house to do her breathing treatment. We did learn earlier in the day that we need to be on file with the power company as a family with a child requiring electricity for medical devices. Not only do they provide a small discount, but more importantly, if there is a planned power outage they are required to notify us ahead of time so that we can make sure we have a backup plan for Leah’s treatment. This is critical since both her feeds and her breathing treatment require power. It is sort of troubling to learn that being on record with them doesn’t prevent them from turning off the power – it just requires notice for planned outages. What do families do when a household member is on a home ventilator and the power goes out??

In case you were wondering, our power returned after about 32 hours. A few hours into it, Uncle Ralph took our breast milk supply to Mandy’s aunt’s house for safekeeping. He also bought two large bags of ice to put in the refrigerator (like an ice box!) and that allowed us to save the cold foods as well. Yay. We pulled through the power outage without any major catastrophes, but it was a good reminder that we need to be better prepared for a real disaster. Anyone know anything about affordable backup generators? If there was a real emergency we wouldn’t be able to just drive somewhere to plug in the pump and breathing treatment – and ice would be a hot commodity (a cold commodity, really). What would we do? Leah needs to eat, and she needs to breathe, and she needs her medication.

Yesterday Leah had her first outpatient speech therapy visit. She tried a bit to drink water through a slow-flow nipple, but she continues to lack coordination and needs to work on that tongue thrust! We got about maybe 1/3 of the way through the appointment when we started hearing this little gurgling creaking sound, and upon investigation we realized her g-tube was out of place. That makes five times since her release from the hospital. This time, however, was different – all of the other times, the balloon came out intact, suggesting either that the balloon was inadequately filled or that the tubing caught on something and pulled it out. This time, the balloon failed and caused the tube to come out. We’re not sure what happened – probably a faulty balloon. I tried to put it back in, but it gave me more resistance than I was willing to fight against so I called the nurse practitioner on the surgical team and she said to bring her over and she’d re-place it. It turns out Leah’s tract is at a bit of an angle, which I didn’t realize since I’ve not been the one to deal with her escaped tube the past few times. Now I know! The speech therapist was very sweet and walked over to the other building with me so I could carry the baby since I didn’t want to strap her into the stroller with a dislodged g-tube.

So. Two appointments yesterday. Today Leah met with her surgeon and her new gastroenterologist, and it looks like we will be returning to consolidated feeds (over an hour), at least during the day. Her feed was raised as well – she has lost a little bit of weight since her last weigh-in. She’s 11 lbs, 4 oz. Gain gain gain, little one!

Tomorrow we have baby’s RSV shot and flu booster. On Thursday Leah has a whopping THREE specialist appointments. Friday are her Regional Center assessments. This kid is POPULAR!

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We don’t always dress like lumberjacks, but when we do, we make sure the kid matches.

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“Yeah, I’m cool.”

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Selfies!!!

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Mama and BabyBug! We just need baseball caps!

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Beautiful eyelashes.

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“Mommy, please just let me eat your hand. That’s all I want. You have another one. Just let this one be mine.”

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BabyBug with her Tubie Friend.

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Leah with her best friends at the moment. (Don’t worry – Jingle Bug is just outside the frame.)

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Who’s a cool cat?

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Please never let her make this face when she’s asking for a cookie or a pony. I’m not sure I can stand up to this face.

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“WHEW! It’s hot in this monkey suit!”

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Sleeping in the car.